More vs Less = Happy

Is it true the more we gain the happy we will be??? /shock

Without we realized everything that we do or everything that we tried to have or everything that we wanna to achieved is happiness. We always looking for the meaning of life, we didn’t realize that everything that we do actually is only to increase our satisfaction or our happiness. /omg

One of the keys in life is happiness, we study so hard just to get good result and great grade so we would be happy, looking for the right job, friend and soul mates  so we can feel happy, we pray diligently so we would be rewarded with heaven/paradise also known as eternal happiness. Everything people do they will seek for happiness including me also.

"It is true the more that we have the more we will feel happy" People always have the thought that the richer we be the happier we would be, the clever we would be the happy we would become, the success we be the more happy we would become and so on. Everyone try their hard to be best at everything or try to gain more of something just to feel happier but sometimes it cost other people just for them to achieve happiness.

In economics I learn that the more that we gained from an increase in the consumption, there will be less marginal utility or diminishing marginal utility, for example the first meal that we ate we would feel happy, but after the second, third, fourth and so on our marginal utility or happiness would be lesser and our the degree of happiness would not be the same as our first consumption, it would become less and lesser. 
  /nobigdeal

Most of us thought the more that we have or the more that we achieve the happier we would be, I used to have the same thought too but then I realized that sometimes having less is better, even if we feel less but we would become more happy or our happy would be like continuously. It like after a long time waiting or didn’t get for a long time at last we get what we want the most and we will appreciate it more.

The more we gain doesn’t guarantee our happiness, so don’t push us so hard to gain more to feel happy just be grateful with what we have and share what we have with people around us. The more we share, the more people will be happy. Sometimes it doesn’t matter if we have more or not but the important is how we utilize the thing that we have.

So having more or achieve more doesn’t guarantee that we would feel happy, Having less or little by little will also make us feel happier, just feel happy with what we have and stay happy all the time, try to make others happy first, when others happy we will also be happy.

JUST APPRECIATE  WITH WHAT WE HAVE /floor

"we're always searching for a perfection, but the world we living have been created perfectly, we're looking for something that already in front of us, so stop searching and start appreciating"  /please

IBU BAPA MENGONGKONG DAN ANAK MEMBERONTAK

Isu untuk pos kali ini adalah berkaitan pasal ibu bapa dan anak, bukan untuk tentukan salah siapa atau siapa yang perlu bertanggungjawab tapi artikel ini hanya untuk menyelami situasi ini.

Ibu bapa kadang-kadang terlalu mengongkong anak-anak mereka, tetapi sebenarnya mereka terlalu sangat sayangkan anak mereka, mereka takut anak mereka tersalah membuat pilihan atau terjebak dalam kegiatan yang tidak sihat. Lebih-lebih lagi pada zaman sekarang yang penuh dengan gejala sosial buruk yang melanda.

  

Yang si anak pulak memberontak kalau dikongkong oleh ibu bapa mereka, untuk menunjukkan tanda bantahan mereka. Kadang-kadang sampai merosakkan masa depan ataupun memudaratkan diri mereka. Situasai ni dah macam waktu kita kecik-kecik, bila kita nak mainan tapi orang tua tak bagi beli, jadi kita pun melalak macam nak rak siap guling-guling lagi supaya dapat mainan, jadi kesimpulannya sangat tidak matang perbuatan tersebut.

Kalau anda rasa ibu bapa anda suka mengongkong fikirkan kembali. Kalau diberikan pilihan untuk pilih ibu bapa seperti ibu bapa yang suka mengongkong, ibu bapa yang tidak kisah pasal anak atau tiada ibu bapa, jadi ibu bapa yang mana akan menjadi pilihan anda???

 

Mengongkong tidak salah kerana ia bagi memastikan si anak terjaga, kadang-kadang ibu bapa perlu mengongkok anak mereka tetapi ada hadnya dan ibu bapa juga perlu memberikan ruang untuk anak-anak untuk melakukan kesilapan supaya mereka dapat belajar dari kesilapan. Perhatikan dan beri sedikit kelonggaran kepada si anak, didik mereka mana yang salah kerana mereka masih dalam proses pembelajaran.

Si anak kena lah belajar untuk hidup berdikari dan tunjuk kepada ibu bapa yang mereka tidak perlu lagi risau lagi kerana si anak sudah tahu untuk hidup berdikari serta bijak dalam memilih mana yang baik dan buruk. Stand up to your parent and discuss with them what you really want. Kalau nak cakap dan bincang dengan ibu bapa pun takut macam mana mereka nak tahu apa yang si anak nak dan tunjukkan keberanian supaya ibu bapa tahu kita sudah bersedia. Lagi pun kita tak perlu takut dengan ibu bapa tapi perlu hormat mereka. Kalau ada yang pernah mencuba tetapi gagal cuba lagi dan lagi sampai ibu bapa kita pulak terasa terkongkong pulak hehe. Cakap dekat mereka mak ayah berilah si anak ruang untuk membuat pilihan, ruang untuk mencuba dan ruang untuk belajar, jikalau si anak gagal diharap mak ayah dapat membimbing si anak kembali (parent can say I told you so)

Jadi kesimpulannya ibu bapa perlu memberi ruang kepada si anak dan si anak perlu lah membuktikan kepada ibu bapa yang mereka tidak perlu risau lagi kerana si anak susah boleh berdikari dengan sendiri, si anak juga sudah boleh membezakn yang mane baik dan buruk.

FEMALE LEADER

 (Read from left to right)

      A long survey has been done in January 2011, to have opinion about female leader actually it is my assignment about female leader,  the survey starts with some boys cynic about female being a leader and they highlight the weakness of female. Then some girls give their opinion that female can be a leader but for small community, then some highlight about the criteria of being a leader. /shock

      So basically society kind of skeptic about female leader and expect more toward male leader, because of norm and female are more emotional than male and other kind of factor also, but basically gender is not the real factors. The main point here is whether he/she got what it takes to be the leader or can he/she carries and bear the job and the responsibility to be the leader or not is the real issues here. 

  

      A leader has to be analytical as well as connected to the people, understanding of the needs of the people they are leading, but not emotional enough to pursuit without reason, full of ambitious, a responsible person and many more. I think some of female business leader also can do well as male can do. Nowadays, female can do as good as male can do and it has been proven by them. YES sometimes female leader’s judgment overwhelmed by their emotion, female tend do feel more emotional than male but basically gender not the real factors.  Most of leaders are male because most criteria as leader are with male, but female also have some of the criteria as leader, and they can also be leader as good as male. So whether male or female are suit for leader is not the issues but do they have the quality to be the leader is the issues. /nobigdeal

      I think gender not the real issue, for me the real issue is the quality as a leader to be a leader. For me to be a leader he/she must be someone that I can really count on, can earn my respect and know how to manage well. So what matter it not the gender, what matter it the person himself/herself, whether he/she have what it take to be the leader and can carry all the responsibility as leader. It is not an easy thing to hold the high post and bear the responsibility only people that really committed, ambitious and dedicate for it, but not many have all the qualities. So to conclude all, from my perspective it doesn’t matter male or female qualify as the leader, what matter is the person himself/herself whether qualify to be the leader  or not qualify. /hmm

KISS

KEEP 

IT         

SHORT

SIMPLE

/blush

Keep It Short & Simple (KISS) :D, this in not about mouth with another mouth but this is something that i learned from my presentation and critical thinking class. We can keep it in mind when delivering any speech, talk or any kind of presentation, to make sure that what we want to deliver will be crystal clear, compact and precise. We also can use it in our daily conversation to avoid ourselves talking nonsense all the time :P

Short: to make sure the speech or presentation not taking to much time and only delivering the important content /please

Simple: to make sure the content is easy to understand by the audience, also to ease the audience to grasp and digest the material that being deliver. /dignose

so this time my post will SHORT & SIMPLE, to make sure you get the important of it, yess just like KISS /hmm

other than that, this post also I sort of want to try something new and bring a new style to my writing /bye